My Approach to Working with Couples

My goal is to help each couple rapidly resolve problems, improve their communication and to preserve their relationship.

Couples who come for marital or relationship therapy can expect to learn new skills for communicating, listening, problem solving and decision making that help them think, feel, and respond more effectively with each other at home, at work and in social situations.

Love is the greatest refreshment in life

Couples take home practical tools and useful information for interacting, resolving conflict and dealing with difficult situations.  In therapy sessions couples learn and practice the skills, attitudes and actions needed to build and preserve intimacy in a healthy committed relationship.

Consider counseling if big arguments are the norm or if there is more than 20% discord in your relationship you should get some professional advice from a skilled couple therapist.

In John Gottman's study....."master" couples made at least 5 positive remarks or gestures toward each other for every zinger during a fight. In calmer times, their positive-to-negative ratio was an astounding 20 to 1. "Masters of disaster" couples were pretty much the opposite.                     Psychotherapy Networker

Using an active solution-oriented skill based approach that is relationship and marriage friendly helps couples get relief right away and enables them to learn intimacy and communcation skills and to work through and solve their most challenging problems and dilemmas.  

I have extensive experience with couples in the area of conflict resolution, communication, pre-marital preparation, affairs, parenting, co-parenting and the challenges of remarriage and blended families that impact a couple’s relationship.

The couples I work with appreciate my active approach, candor and concern for their well-being and that of their relationship.  I am respectful of differences and provide an atmosphere where clients feel comfortable enough to share their difficulties and supported enough to make changes and move towards their goals.

For more than ten years I have been working with couples doing Marriage & Relationship Counseling and Therapy and have taught, trained, and supervised, therapists in couple and family therapy years at three universities and numerous counseling and mental health centers.

I have expertise in many couple therapy approaches and continually receive training and education in the most effective methods of working with and helping couples. I conduct workshops teaching couple therapy skills, techniques  and approaches to licensed therapists.

I hope you will consider some type of couple therapy to achieve your goals, solve your problems and meet he challenges you face in making your relationship stronger and more satisfying.  With the right therapist, many couples can make significant progress from the very first session.

Call (310) 828-7121 or e-mail me to set up a complimentary telephone consultation for couple counseling or to schedule an appointment. Be sure to include your phone number in your e-mail.

I wish you continued relationship success.

Lynne Azpeitia

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